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When Tara Met Blog
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Privacy

Cause privacy is my middle name, my last name is control. No, my first name ain't baby, Its Tara... Ms. Settembre if you’re nasty.  OK, if you didn’t recognize that verse was from one of Janet Jackson’s first songs, “Nasty,” minus the Tara Settembre that is, then I guess I already lost the Blog-Off.  We’re now in the third round of the charity competition and this week’s topic is privacy.

Unlike what Jackson sings in her song, I’m not a very private person, well at least not when it comes to some things. I blog my life after all. For the last 2.5 years this site chronicles my life. One of my colleagues believes that there is a bit of exhibitionism in blogging. I guess she has a point. I like being able to write what goes on in my life here and share it with “the void.”

Heck, when living in my apt in New York, I wasn’t the type that cowered around the corners every time I needed to go out in my windowed living room  (where my bureaus were also) naked to get a different top. But in those moments I wasn’t thinking, let me show people that I’m naked, it was more like what the heck no one is looking and I can't be bothered to be shy. Sometimes I feel that way with my blog. I started off not sharing photos and leaving out details but then I found it impaired my story telling and after all who was looking, right?

Now that my readership has grown, colleagues and family are reading, I’ve been private enough not too share EVERYthing and to omit personal stuff like where exactly I live, etc, but I refuse to censor myself too much and destroy my creativity. Despite the fact that I have family members reading, I even blogged about a stimulation beverage after all, and I often post embarrassing photos of myself too.

I like sharing, I like putting myself out there, even after being burned. I refuse to loose my optimism and personality. 

However, although I might not always keep my life private, I do protect the privacy of my friends and exes ;) on my blog. You’ll notice none have ever been bashed here, just a bad date here and there explained in the past. I also ask my friends if I can post certain photos before publishing. For instance K, was totally cool with me posting this one. She's a sport and reads my blog, unlike some of my friends who rather catch the live show. But this blog is important to me and I've appreciated everyone who reads it.

PS: Below are the remaining Blog-Off contestants still on Blog Island. Originally there were 17 players and now we're down to 13. Do feel free to donate to the cause here. And yes, I arranged the links so they would look like steps. 

Write2B
Blaaahhhg
Dirka Dirka
durante vita
Joe & Sherry
Write On Track

Just Another Week
Sandra’s Goings On
Speaking Quite Franke
Have Fun Storming The Castle!

The Adventures Of Chris & Evey

With A Turn And A Twist, She Gets Her Wish


Posted by Tara at 12:01 AM PDT
Updated: Wednesday, April 11, 2007 12:18 PM PDT

Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 1:06 AM PDT

Name: "QueenieCarly"
Home Page: http://www.queeniecarly.typepad.com

"but I refuse to censor myself too much and destroy my creativity"  That's a great way of putting it.  And a challenge for us all.

Good luck for week three!

Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 10:35 AM PDT

Name: "Zendi"
Home Page: http://zhen-d.blogspot.com

That's the great things about blogging, you can share your life with anyone and everyone without jeopardizing your privacy. One of the things I regret from my older blogs is that I regret not blogging more and leaving out details. I look back at my older blogs and can see the big and small changes in me. I find it therapeutic.

Believe me... I read all of your post so far and I feel as if I know you for ages.

Sorry for the long comment and good luck on the next topic. =)

 

Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 12:02 PM PDT

Name: "Evey"
Home Page: http://www.chrisandevey.blogspot,.com

Great post Tara.
I totally censor what I do and dont write on my own blog for fear of the reactions from family members etc. It sucks that I feel I have to be that way but I just know it has to be.
 Good luck this week.

Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 4:51 PM PDT

Name: "Courtney"
Home Page: http://fiveseconddanceparty.com

I find that I do censor myself a lot on my blog, which is unfortunate, but there are several things that have happened to me or that I've done that I don't want my family knowing about it and while I know none of them read regularly, I do know that at least my sisters know about it. I let too much be said one time and a friend was hurt in the process, so I've chosen to try to limit how much I discuss other people. I think I've found an okay mix of exhibition and privacy.

 

 

Wednesday, April 4, 2007 - 11:19 PM PDT

Name: "Tinker Vanderbelt"
Home Page: http://www.sheunlimited.com

I am glad you don't sensor yourself but also practice ethical blogging (give the EX some odd name or not naming at all).  Very cool...

Thursday, April 5, 2007 - 12:17 PM PDT

Name: "mrsmogul"
Home Page: http://mrsmogul.blogspot.com

I usually change the names of the innocent on the blog :) I may stop posting pics of my son when he gets older but that's the only thing!

Thursday, April 5, 2007 - 3:33 PM PDT

Name: "C~"
Home Page: http://blog.write2b.com

I think I leave out a lot of detail too...and I try to keep the other folks protected...except Steve.  Poor guy...he's open season.  LOL

Saturday, April 7, 2007 - 7:53 PM PDT

Name: "durante vita"
Home Page: http://www.durante-vita.net

Loving the reference to Miss Janet. But I wish she would just get over the poor sales of her last album and go on tour already, even if I am the only one in the audience.

I wish I could be as open (with my life) as you are. I respect that you can do that.

And keep the Janet going. That's all.

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